The DAILY Message for Wednesday August 5th, 2015

August 5, 2015

“Smile and RECONCILE (Relationship Expectations Can Open New Communication Into Life Empowerment).”

Derrick Hayes is known as the “Encouragement Speaker” and is available for speaking engagements and Derricknym signings at meetings, conferences, and events. Please visit http://www.DerrickHayes.com email info@DerrickHayes.com  or call (706) 615-1662 to book Derrick Hayes now.


The DAILY Message for Friday July 17th, 2015

July 17, 2015

“Even if you’re broke think like you have a MILLION (Motivated Individual Leveraging Life Into Opportunities Now).”

Derrick Hayes is known as the “Encouragement Speaker” and is available for speaking engagements and Derricknym signings at meetings, conferences, and events. Please visit http://www.DerrickHayes.com email info@DerrickHayes.com  or call (706) 615-1662 to book Derrick Hayes now.


The DAILY Message for Tuesday February 10th, 2015

February 10, 2015

AskDerrickAboutEach week day Derrick Hayes encourages you through a Derricknym, App and Idea to Lift You.

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  • Derricknym: Pass The TEST (Think Every Situation Through).
  • App: Today’s word is Hungry. Have you heard your stomach growl lately and the hunger was for success and not for food? Do you plan to let your dream starve or will you feed it? Download the Motivation To Your Mobile app on Android or I Phones to receive Today’s word.
  • Idea: Give your all and your debt will fall.

Derrick Hayes is known as the “Encouragement Speaker” and is available for speaking engagements and Derricknym signings at meetings, conferences, and events. Please visit http://www.DerrickHayes.com email info@DerrickHayes.com  or call (706) 615-1662 to book Derrick Hayes now.


DERRICK Interview with Author Roy Glenn

February 12, 2014

RoyGlennEncouragement Speaker Derrick Hayes gives a DERRICK Interview by asking 7 questions through each letter of his first name to give you an insightful perspective from other experts, entrepreneurs, celebrities and up and coming super stars.

Today’s DERRICK Interview is with Author Roy Glenn who is known as the master of urban suspense. Roy Glenn is the author of Treat Me Nice, Wanda’s Reign, The Indictment of Mike Black, Misunderstood, and Is It a Crime, which became a best seller and gave birth to the popular character, Mike Black.

Other novels in The Mike Black Saga include; Beneath The Surface, Out of Control, No Loose Ends, Prelude to War, Secrets of War and A Tale of Three Women. Roy is also a contributing author in the popular series Girls From Da Hood and Around The Way Girls.

His other novels include Crime of Passion, Body of Evidence and Ulterior Motive which feature the character, attorney Marcus Douglas. After Hour’s Tales, Doctor-Patient Confidentiality, Killing Them Softly: An Erotic Tale of Murder.

Roy was born and raised in The Bronx and currently lives in Jacksonville, Florida where he is working on several projects including, I Came to Bring The Pain, the next installments in The Mike Black Saga. And The Kimberley Process.

D is for Dream. What is your dream, goals or what have you achieved?

I have achieved so much and have so much to be thankful for. I love the way that I earn my living; writing. I love where I live; I have great friends and family that I love. I believe that is a major achievement in life. But I still have dreams and goals, which is to write a screenplay and see it produced on the big screen.

E is for Education. What is your educational background and how do you use it daily?

I went to college and since my craft is using the written word to tell a story, I can say that I get to apply what I’ve learned everyday.

R is for Resource. What resources do you bring to the table that makes you unique or stand out?

Organization and discipline.

R is for Ready. When did you realize you were ready for what you are doing now?

I decided to do it, then I woke up one morning and got started.

I is for Individual. Name at least one individual in your network that others should learn more about and why?

The writer Aja. She is a great writer

C is for Challenges. What challenges have you had to overcome?

You name it and it came at me. I just refused to surrender.

K is for Key. What keys to success can you leave for upcoming entrepreneurs and leaders?

Decide what you want to do and get started, now. The world is waiting for what you have to offer.

Is there anything that we did not touch on that you would like to inspire others with?

Stay true!

Visit Author Roy Glenn for more information.


Love In The Room

January 28, 2014

Kristenkellumby Kristen Kellem a Journalism Student at Parkland College in Champaign, Illinois.

It’s amazing how regardless of where I’m at, I feel at home when I walk into the rooms. I could be in a different state, and feel like I’ve always been there. The rooms and the people in them are like my home away from home and my second family.

Before I joined this program, I was looking for love in all the wrong places. I thought alcohol and drugs were all the love I needed. My addiction took the place of everything, it was the one and only thing I loved. I never realized what real love was. When I finally got sober, I didn’t know how to act towards people. I never really associated with people. When I did, it was just to get something from them. I always thought that everyone was like that. I thought people did things to get something out of it too.

When I attended my first meeting, everyone was so nice to me. They showed me where everything was and refilled my coffee. They showed me how the meeting went and didn’t pressure me to share. I had just lost a baby as a result of my alcohol and drug use. I never felt so at home and cared about. I could tell the people in that room that day really wanted to help.

As a newcomer, I believe that helped me stay in the program. The acceptance, love, and compassion and the desire to help people without getting anything from it is one of my first lessons I learned in this program. I also like that people were comfortable enough to open up and share their problems with each other. I even learned that guys and gals could be friends and help each other without it going any further than that.

The more meetings I went to, the more comfortable I was with the people in the meetings. The friends I have made in this program have done more for me than they will ever know. They have helped me stay sober, and learn a lot about myself.

When I see a newcomer, I try to remember what everyone did for me when I came in the program, and I do what I know helped me. I pass on what was given to me by my friends. I try not to go over board and scare them away. I have found that people who are comfortable with where they are have the tendency to come back more often.

I have a passion for helping people and I love knowing that I have helped someone stay sober even if it is one day. Who knows, that cup of coffee you bring them or that hug, or just the love and friendliness in the air can help a person decide to stay sober. Even though I’ve been in the program for a little while, I still like the reassurance that no matter what, I won’t be judged. People might make suggestions because they have been through a similar situation. This helps reminded me that no matter where I’m at, I am not alone.

My name is Kristen Kellem. I was born in Rantoul, IL on the Air Force Base. I’m 27 years old, and have lived an eventful life. I was addicted to drugs and alcohol, even had a stillborn because of my addictions. Now I have a beautiful son, I’m going to school, going to church and I have 5 months clean and sober. My do I have a story to tell.


DERRICK Interview with Mr. Think Like a Black Belt Jim Bouchard

January 14, 2014

JBBBEncouragement Speaker Derrick Hayes gives a DERRICK Interview by asking 7 questions through each letter of his first name to give you an insightful perspective from other experts, entrepreneurs, celebrities and up and coming super stars.

Today’s DERRICK Interview is with my Maine Man, Mr. Think Like a Black Belt Jim Bouchard. Jim has used Martial Arts to transform his self-perception from former drug abuser and failure to successful entrepreneur and Black Belt. As a speaker and author of Amazon bestseller Think Like a Black Belt, Jim tours nationally presenting his philosophy of Black Belt Mindset for corporate and conference audiences. He’s a regular guest on TV and radio programs including FOX News, BBC Worldview and FOX Across America.

“I was living in Portland, Maine. No car. No money. Crummy apartment. My girlfriend had just left me and my band was breaking up. I took a walk up the main drag and looked up and saw a gigantic sign on the side of a building. In 3 foot letters it spelled out K-A-R-A-T-E. I went inside and saw some guys throwing each other around. I thought, ‘This is fantastic!’ Then I turned around and left!”

“The more I studied martial arts, the more I realized that I could shape my own vision of success & happiness through discipline, focus and self-motivation. It’s a matter of developing a life of practice and committing yourself to continual self-improvement. Just like earning a black belt; simple, not always easy!”

His adventure is just beginning! Come along and see what adventures he can create for you as Jim teaches you how to Think Like a Black Belt!

D (Dreams) Not big on dreams. I’m more one of those blood, sweat and tears types!ThinkLikeaBlackBeltcover

My ambition is to help more people learn how to THINK Like a BLACK BELT. I spent a lot of my life in a state of weakness. I want to help people learn how to develop mastery and power in their lives.

I learned how to become more powerful- more effective. If I have a dream, it’s to help other people realize their power, sooner than I did!

E (Education) Two for two! I’m a two-time college dropout! Even though I never completed a degree, I am, unabashedly, one of the most educated people I know! I read voraciously and constantly look for new areas to research and study.

Fortunately for me- my work demands constant research and study.

Some of the people I admire most were completely self-educated. I don’t believe a diploma necessarily proves intelligence- but your commitment to continual learning and growth certainly does.

R (Resources) My greatest resources are my experiences, my discipline and my focus. I have the ability to pay attention and take a broad look at things. From those resources, I can cultivate whatever else I may need or want!

I believe to feel truly successful, you have to have “enough” in three areas of life- emotional, spiritual and material. I’ve experience genuine poverty in each of these areas and right now I’m feeling pretty blessed!

R (Ready) I don’t know if I feel ready now! My greatest challenge in life has always been confidence. That’s a big part of the reason I’m so committed to help others develop genuine confidence.

But for myself, I still have my “Wayne’s World” moments- you know, “I’m not worthy!”

There’s too much emphasis on “ready.” Sometimes you’ve got to just get on with it so you can see first hand what you need to do to get better.

Training and preparation are essential- but nobody ever won a championship from ringside! Get in the ring, learn from the experience, and build from there.

I (Individual) There are so many special people in my network I wouldn’t even know where to start. Instead of naming one person, I’m going to share some of the types of people you absolutely must have in your corner…

You need a trainer- a coach. You might climb into the ring by yourself, but your trainer gives you the perspective you need and holds you accountable. He helps you make adjustments on the fly- you just can’t see everything from inside the fight. (Works in real life and business too!)

You need a cut-man. This is the person who patches you up when you get hurt. This person knows the tricks of the trade when it comes to how to close up a cut quickly and get you back in the fight.

You need fans- the people who keep you going even when you doubt yourself.

You need critics- the people who give you an objective assessment of where you are, who you are and what you’re doing.

You need a Sensei- this may or may not be your trainer or coach. What I mean by Sensei is a true mentor. Sensei literally translates as “one who went before.” You need someone who has travelled the road you’re on, or at least on like it. This person might not be with you day in and day out- he or she is someone you can go to for the 30,000 foot perspective. Someone who is not necessarily judgmental, but someone who can honestly say, “been there, done that!”

Doesn’t matter if you’re getting ready for the ring or the boardroom. These are the people you need around you!

C (Challenges) Now this is a good question! I’ve had my share of challenges- and some. Now I call them “blessings.”

I’m a two-time college dropout and former drug abuser. My biggest challenge, and the one that is the root cause of these others, was a complete lack of self-confidence or sense of self-worth.

I’ve been suicidal. I’ve lived in genuine- though self-inflicted poverty. I’ve lost people dear to me. I’ve been estranged from family. So overall no better or worse off than most people! Everyone faces challenges and it’s all a matter of perspective. Just when you think you have real problems, and you might, you’ll meet or hear about someone dealing with far worse.

Eventually I realized (and I keep reminding myself) that challenge is what life is all about. The old fortune cookie saying goes, “The true warrior is only tested by the mettle of his enemy.” The greater your challenges, the greater your opportunity to grow and develop as a person- as you face them.

One of the biggest things I had to learn along the way is not to confuse courage with a lack of fear. Courage isn’t the absence of fear; the absence of fear is stupidity!

Courageous people do what’s necessary in the face of their fears. In fact no fear; no courage! Fear, danger, risk- that’s what defines courage.

That’s why I call my challenges “blessings.” If it weren’t for the challenges I’ve had, and some luck and good fortune along the way, I would never be growing to be the person I am now and in the future.

K (Keys) The key is Mastery. That’s it.

Power is your ability or capacity to act or perform effectively. Embrace it.

The process of developing power- growing to act more effectively, is what we call “Mastery.” And that’s exactly what it is, a process.

It’s the continual process of self-perfection, learning, improvement and growth. You see, The Master’s Mind is really the Beginner’s Mind- full of wonder, hope and curiosity. Never satisfied- never finished.

When I earned my first black belt, it was a deep, rich, beautiful shade of perfect black. My Master told me, however, that if I continued in the martial arts, I’d tie and untie that belt thousands of times…I’d be dragged across the floor in it, I’d sweat, bleed and cry in it. Eventually, the belt would fade and the black cover would fray away. That’s what my belt looks like now, after nearly 25 years as a black belt. As the black outer cover wears away, it reveals an inner core……a white belt. White represents the beginning- “Beginner’s Mind.”

If you keep remembering that- you’ll be OK!

There’s really only one thing you need to know to THINK Like a BLACK belt or to be successful in anything you do…

“Perfection is not a destination; it’s a never-ending process…Enjoy!”

Visit Jim Bouchard for more information.


Intervention: 5 Tips for Helping Loved Ones Break an Addiction

December 5, 2013

5waysby Samantha

When someone you care about is battling an addiction, it’s a torment to watch such suffering. You know that the friend or family member is on a dead end road and you want to do something before it’s too late. While you can’t be the cure, you can help by guiding his or her path in the right direction. Try the following, five tips for helping loved ones break an addiction.

Be a Support System

Be a steadfast source of support for your loved one. No matter how rough the road to recovery gets, be there to pick him or her up after the fall. Expect anger and denial. Be prepared to hold on tight and weather a storm of emotions. If there are legal issues that need resolved, HarronLaw.com can help. If alcoholism is the source of the problem and DWI is involved, a competent attorney can defend your DWI case. Assist the victim of addiction in removing as many external burdens as possible so that he or she can concentrate on recovery.

Hold an Intervention

Gather friends and family together to confront the one suffering from addiction. Make it clear that you are all banding together out of love. You want to see a brighter future ahead for your loved one, not a funeral. On the present course, addiction is destroying everything in its path. It is time to stop the madness.  Make sure everyone participating is prepared for a lengthy process and turn off all cellphones as interventions often require a long time to make progress and interruptions can ruin the effect.

Seek the Best Treatment Option

Your loved one will be overwhelmed by addiction. Assistance will be needed in navigating the maze of rehabilitation facilities. However, together you can search through available programs and find the right fit. Accompany your loved one to various facilities to see the placement for yourself, ask questions, and begin the admission process. You can also find out about counseling services to help friends and family cope with the effects of addiction.

Stay in Touch

Once treatment begins, continue to be a lifeline for your loved one. Send letters in the mail. Get in touch on the internet if it is allowed. Send care packages to lift the spirits. If it’s possible, make regular visits.  Having a connection with a familiar and supportive person is often key in helping addicts process difficult and frightening changes.

Be Prepared for the Homecoming

Once your loved one has completed a rehabilitation program, roll out the welcome mat. Remember that it will be an ongoing effort to maintain sobriety. Surround the recovering addict with positive influences to help her or him remain on the straight and narrow.  Be sure to remain vigilant to help guard against relapses.

Breaking the vicious cycle of addiction is never easy. It will take continuous effort and a strong circle of friends.  As you take these steps, you will be able to help your loved one successfully navigate the difficult road to recovery.