The DAILY Message for Monday October 20th, 2014

October 20, 2014

AskDerrickAboutEach week day Derrick Hayes encourages you through a Derricknym, App and Idea to Lift You.

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  • Derricknym: Do You Have What It TAKES (Think About Keeping Everything Simple)?
  • App: Today’s word is Salvage. Some things that are thrown away can and should be saved. Your life is so important that you were saved and now you can save others. Download the Motivation To Your Mobile app on Android or I Phones to receive Today’s word.
  • Idea: Find your dream and develop a team.

Derrick Hayes is known as the “Encouragement Speaker” and is available for speaking engagements and Derricknym signings at meetings, conferences, and events. Please visit http://www.DerrickHayes.com email info@DerrickHayes.com  or call (706) 615-1662 to book Derrick Hayes now.

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The DAILY Message for Thursday March 27th, 2014

March 27, 2014

AskDerrickAboutEach week day Derrick Hayes encourages you through a Derricknym, App and Idea to Lift You.

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• Derricknym: You BETTER (Be Energized To Try for Elevated Results).
• App: Today’s word is Perform. Lights, camera and action are everywhere but not in that order. Your actions create images that leave you behind or make you shine. Receive Today’s word in Motivation To Your Mobile app on Android and i-phones.
• Idea: Every day you wake is a chance you get to take.
Please visit Derrick’s website at http://www.DerrickHayes.com and to book him for a speaking engagement or media event, send an email to info@DerrickHayes.com or call (706) 615-1662.


21 Things I’ve Learned from 21 Years of Life

March 21, 2014

BrittanyMajor21By Brittaney Major

Do you remember what you thought about adult life when you were younger? I remember when I was younger I thought that by the time I turned 21, my life would be a lot different than how it is now.

I thought there was going to be this imaginary bridge to walk across a few weeks before my 21st that would take me to grown up land and I’d be prepared to perform all the duties that come along with adulthood.

I’d know how car insurance works, how to get a mortgage, how to do my own taxes, how to pay off debt, how to cook white rice. I’d have a real job, I’d be tall enough to at least look like an adult- and, is it just me, or is my bank account the only one that screams everything but, “I’m ready to be financially independent!?”

I thought that life’s mysteries would suddenly reveal themselves to me. I always thought there was a class or a training session or at least a pamphlet that would teach me all of these things and at the end, I’d be ready to conquer the world..as an adult.

Turns out, I thought wrong. There’s no such thing. Not even in a fortune cookie or a session at a technical college. There are only lessons, mistakes, failures, obstacles, curiosity and challenges.

I laughed when I realized that 10 years ago today, I turned 11. Twenty years ago today, I turned 1. So after being alive for 660 million seconds these are the 21 things I’ve come to know as facts in my short, short life. In no way do I believe I have it all figured out, but these are justa few (or 21) things I’ve learned in these 21 years.

1. Seasons come and seasons go. Life is full of swift transitions. Accept them, value them and appreciate them while you have them. Ask God what it is you need to learn from the season of your life you are currently in to prepare you for the next one. Everyone can’t go where God is taking you.  That’s one thing I’ve really learned throughout my life. Accept the fact that people change and friends leave. No one can stay in your life forever. No matter how much hurt it will cause you, you have to learn to let go. Everyone who walks into your life knows something that you don’t. So take the time to learn at least one thing from the people you meet. Even the people who really challenge you have something you need to learn from them. It’s not always easy to find the God in people. People move me more than anything else. When new people step into my life, I think to myself, “Okay God, what role is this person going to play in my life? How are they going to teach me something about you and your love?”

2. Never say never. Try anything (as long as it’s sensible) at least once. Barney said it best. You never know what amazing experience or opportunity lies behind your ability to be optimistic.

3. Use your ears more than you use your mouth. Sometimes, people just need someone to listen, not necessarily someone to give advice.  I grew up with getting “talks too much” on my report card, and yeah that talking game is basically my major. But sometimes, silence is beautifulEspecially with my friends and in relationships, I’ve had to learn that everyone doesn’t always need to hear that “I told you so” from me. People don’t always need an intelligent mind that speaks, but a patient heart that listens.

4. Never grow up. Get rid of anyone who says Disney is just for children, you don’t need that type of negativity in your life. I promised myself I would never take myself too serious as I grew up. I never wanted to be in a place where I didn’t know how to enjoy life. I still enjoy watching princess movies and being free-spirited. That way, no matter how old I am, I’ll always be young at heart.

5. ABC-always be cute. When your nails are done, it makes you feel like you really have your life together. Don’t ever get caught in the “I’m not lookable stage.” Anytime you step foot out your door, you should be prepared to meet your future husband or your worst enemy. You also feel better when you know you look good. In no way does this mean that this is all you should have going for you. Brains and beauty should be a packaged deal- a combo so-to-say.

6. People are people too. You never know what battles God has asked other people to fight so remember that when dealing with them. We all have something that we are going through. Try to be the sunshine in someone else’s life. Try to make their burdens a little lighter. Whether that’s offering an ear to listen, a heart to care or a hand to hold, try forgetting about yourself. (It’s never really about you)

7. Do what you love. No matter if it’s cool or not do things that make you happy. By the world’s standards, I’m pretty lame- but that’s just fine with me. Just like the Yellow Tang on Finding Nemo, I love bubbles! You can’t help but be happy when there’s 3-D soap floating in the air.

8. No one owes you anything. Anything worth having in life is also worth fighting and working for. Don’t you ever think that just because you were born you are obligated to something. So always be and do the best you can and you’ll be just fine.

9. Reading is magical. Call me a nerd if you will, it doesn’t bother me at all. There’s so much mystery in a book that’s waiting to be discovered.

10. Alone does not mean lonely. I know I’m always talking about being alone and I promise I have friends! But I think this is so important and it’s one of the biggest lessons I’ve had to learn in these 21 years. To me, there’s nothing better than coming home from a long day of classes, work and meetings than just sitting in my room in the quiet. There is beauty in facing your personal thoughts. There’s strength in having to deal with you. So take the time to listen to yourself without any noise or distractions.

11. If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all. Every thought that comes to your head should not be allowed out of your mouth.  Sometimes I’ll start to say something and I just have to think “Brittaney, shut up.” Everything you say should be of value..if it’s not of worth, it’s not worth it.

“Wise men speak because they have something to say; fools because they have to say something.”

12. Stop comparing yourself to others. Never compare yourself to anyone else or the journey they’re taking. God made you exactly who you are for a special reason. Since before you were even thought about it, He knew everything about you and thought it was beautiful. The story He has written for you, is yours and no one else’s. So don’t look at someone else’s story and compare their ending to your beginning.

13. Live life with no regrets. Never regret a decision you have made. For at one point, It was exactly what you wanted. Take it as a lesson learned.

14. Worry less, pray more. Spend less time talking to people and more time talking to God. This is pretty self-explanatory. Most of the time, the things that I worry about have a one in a million chance of actually happening. I constantly have to put my thoughts under subjection by ridding myself of the negativity simply pray. Prayer changes things.

15. Some people were absent the day the teacher introduced the concept of homophones. There. They’re. Their.Waste.Waist.Weight. Wait. Weigh. Way. Accept. Except. Buy. By. Know. No. Weather.Whether.Than.Then.Your. You’re. Too.Two.To.Loss.Lost.But. Butt. Effect. Affect. Well. Good. Just to name a few. The last TWO aren’t homophones BUT they stress me out TOO. Take this quiz and see if you know the difference.

P.S. Conversate is NOT a word.

16. Your mom is more than likely always right. As much as I hate to admit it.There have been so many instances where my mom has told me something, but I had to discover it myself. It amazes me how often she is right, even in things that happen in my personal life. Save yourself some time, and just believe whatever she says. Whoever said “mama knows best” was probably a mother, because they were right. I thank God everyday for sending me such a beautiful angel to guide me through this journey of life.

17. Forgive and forget. Everyone makes mistakes. So if someone hurts you, forgive them and move on. Just roll with the punches and keep living. But never, ever hold it in your heart. That’s not healthy living.

18Big birthday parties don’t prove anything: They aren’t all they are cracked up to be except lots of money and time. After years of over-the-top Disney birthdays, princess tea parties, puppet shows and limo rides, I’ve learned to just value simpler, smaller and quieter birthdays.  I’ll take a quiet and intimate birthday dinner over anything else.  It’s better to celebrate with those that actually matter.

My entire life I imagined my 21st birthday to be me in a sparkly dress drinking and living it up with friends at some club. But thank God for Jesus. I only wanted to celebrate this milestone with a few. Only those people who bring positive energy and light in my life deserve to share this moment with me. I actually think it’s funny that God has me turning 21 on a Sunday. It proves that He knows his children so much better than they THINK they know themselves.

19TAKE. ME. HOME!!! I promise you, anyone who is really close to me has heard me this phrase on occasion. Most of the time, I can handle situations when they don’t go my way or if I’m just having a bad day. But sometimes, no matter how grown up I may feel or act, I just want to go home to get a hug from my mommy.

20. Listen to tasteful music. Having a favorite artist that sings inspirational and uplifting music makes life a whole lot better. Don’t waste time depositing negativity in your life because what you listen to, you become. My favorite song is “There’s Hope” by India.Arie.

And finally…

21. Love God, Love Others, Love Yourself– and in that order. Matthew 12:22-34 “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength and love your neighbor as yourself. There is no greater command than these.” Learn to constantly live in love. This is not something that can be done overnight. It takes time to show others your love. The type of love to strive for is the love God shows to us each day. Although it’s impossible for man to exhibit the type of love God show us, you can use it as a model on how to deal with and love others.  

But these three things remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

Brittaney C. Major  is a Class of 2015 Mass Communication- Print Journalism major, Marketing Minor at Winthrop University. Brittaney is also a member of National Association of Black Journalist- Winthrop University Chapter, President Office of Student Activities Student Assistant, Style Guru Reporter for Seventeen Magazine, Roddey McMillan-Record, Staff Writer, Girl Talk Foundation, Inc. and Volunteer
Social Media Specialist at Jumping the Broom Bridal Magazine.


The DAILY Message for Wednesday January 15th, 2014

January 15, 2014

AskDerrickAboutEach week day Derrick Hayes encourages you through a Derricknym, App and Idea to Lift You.

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  • Derricknym: Believe And Live GOOD (Giving to Others Opens Doors).
  • App: Today’s word Present. Being tardy or late is better than not being there at all. People talk all day long but what will they do when you enter and are present? Receive Today’s word in Motivation To Your Mobile app on Android and i-phones.
  • Idea: When you sleep well you work well.

Please visit Derrick’s website at http://www.DerrickHayes.com and to book him for a speaking engagement or media event, send an email to info@DerrickHayes.com  or call (706) 615-1662.


DERRICK Interview with Mr. Think Like a Black Belt Jim Bouchard

January 14, 2014

JBBBEncouragement Speaker Derrick Hayes gives a DERRICK Interview by asking 7 questions through each letter of his first name to give you an insightful perspective from other experts, entrepreneurs, celebrities and up and coming super stars.

Today’s DERRICK Interview is with my Maine Man, Mr. Think Like a Black Belt Jim Bouchard. Jim has used Martial Arts to transform his self-perception from former drug abuser and failure to successful entrepreneur and Black Belt. As a speaker and author of Amazon bestseller Think Like a Black Belt, Jim tours nationally presenting his philosophy of Black Belt Mindset for corporate and conference audiences. He’s a regular guest on TV and radio programs including FOX News, BBC Worldview and FOX Across America.

“I was living in Portland, Maine. No car. No money. Crummy apartment. My girlfriend had just left me and my band was breaking up. I took a walk up the main drag and looked up and saw a gigantic sign on the side of a building. In 3 foot letters it spelled out K-A-R-A-T-E. I went inside and saw some guys throwing each other around. I thought, ‘This is fantastic!’ Then I turned around and left!”

“The more I studied martial arts, the more I realized that I could shape my own vision of success & happiness through discipline, focus and self-motivation. It’s a matter of developing a life of practice and committing yourself to continual self-improvement. Just like earning a black belt; simple, not always easy!”

His adventure is just beginning! Come along and see what adventures he can create for you as Jim teaches you how to Think Like a Black Belt!

D (Dreams) Not big on dreams. I’m more one of those blood, sweat and tears types!ThinkLikeaBlackBeltcover

My ambition is to help more people learn how to THINK Like a BLACK BELT. I spent a lot of my life in a state of weakness. I want to help people learn how to develop mastery and power in their lives.

I learned how to become more powerful- more effective. If I have a dream, it’s to help other people realize their power, sooner than I did!

E (Education) Two for two! I’m a two-time college dropout! Even though I never completed a degree, I am, unabashedly, one of the most educated people I know! I read voraciously and constantly look for new areas to research and study.

Fortunately for me- my work demands constant research and study.

Some of the people I admire most were completely self-educated. I don’t believe a diploma necessarily proves intelligence- but your commitment to continual learning and growth certainly does.

R (Resources) My greatest resources are my experiences, my discipline and my focus. I have the ability to pay attention and take a broad look at things. From those resources, I can cultivate whatever else I may need or want!

I believe to feel truly successful, you have to have “enough” in three areas of life- emotional, spiritual and material. I’ve experience genuine poverty in each of these areas and right now I’m feeling pretty blessed!

R (Ready) I don’t know if I feel ready now! My greatest challenge in life has always been confidence. That’s a big part of the reason I’m so committed to help others develop genuine confidence.

But for myself, I still have my “Wayne’s World” moments- you know, “I’m not worthy!”

There’s too much emphasis on “ready.” Sometimes you’ve got to just get on with it so you can see first hand what you need to do to get better.

Training and preparation are essential- but nobody ever won a championship from ringside! Get in the ring, learn from the experience, and build from there.

I (Individual) There are so many special people in my network I wouldn’t even know where to start. Instead of naming one person, I’m going to share some of the types of people you absolutely must have in your corner…

You need a trainer- a coach. You might climb into the ring by yourself, but your trainer gives you the perspective you need and holds you accountable. He helps you make adjustments on the fly- you just can’t see everything from inside the fight. (Works in real life and business too!)

You need a cut-man. This is the person who patches you up when you get hurt. This person knows the tricks of the trade when it comes to how to close up a cut quickly and get you back in the fight.

You need fans- the people who keep you going even when you doubt yourself.

You need critics- the people who give you an objective assessment of where you are, who you are and what you’re doing.

You need a Sensei- this may or may not be your trainer or coach. What I mean by Sensei is a true mentor. Sensei literally translates as “one who went before.” You need someone who has travelled the road you’re on, or at least on like it. This person might not be with you day in and day out- he or she is someone you can go to for the 30,000 foot perspective. Someone who is not necessarily judgmental, but someone who can honestly say, “been there, done that!”

Doesn’t matter if you’re getting ready for the ring or the boardroom. These are the people you need around you!

C (Challenges) Now this is a good question! I’ve had my share of challenges- and some. Now I call them “blessings.”

I’m a two-time college dropout and former drug abuser. My biggest challenge, and the one that is the root cause of these others, was a complete lack of self-confidence or sense of self-worth.

I’ve been suicidal. I’ve lived in genuine- though self-inflicted poverty. I’ve lost people dear to me. I’ve been estranged from family. So overall no better or worse off than most people! Everyone faces challenges and it’s all a matter of perspective. Just when you think you have real problems, and you might, you’ll meet or hear about someone dealing with far worse.

Eventually I realized (and I keep reminding myself) that challenge is what life is all about. The old fortune cookie saying goes, “The true warrior is only tested by the mettle of his enemy.” The greater your challenges, the greater your opportunity to grow and develop as a person- as you face them.

One of the biggest things I had to learn along the way is not to confuse courage with a lack of fear. Courage isn’t the absence of fear; the absence of fear is stupidity!

Courageous people do what’s necessary in the face of their fears. In fact no fear; no courage! Fear, danger, risk- that’s what defines courage.

That’s why I call my challenges “blessings.” If it weren’t for the challenges I’ve had, and some luck and good fortune along the way, I would never be growing to be the person I am now and in the future.

K (Keys) The key is Mastery. That’s it.

Power is your ability or capacity to act or perform effectively. Embrace it.

The process of developing power- growing to act more effectively, is what we call “Mastery.” And that’s exactly what it is, a process.

It’s the continual process of self-perfection, learning, improvement and growth. You see, The Master’s Mind is really the Beginner’s Mind- full of wonder, hope and curiosity. Never satisfied- never finished.

When I earned my first black belt, it was a deep, rich, beautiful shade of perfect black. My Master told me, however, that if I continued in the martial arts, I’d tie and untie that belt thousands of times…I’d be dragged across the floor in it, I’d sweat, bleed and cry in it. Eventually, the belt would fade and the black cover would fray away. That’s what my belt looks like now, after nearly 25 years as a black belt. As the black outer cover wears away, it reveals an inner core……a white belt. White represents the beginning- “Beginner’s Mind.”

If you keep remembering that- you’ll be OK!

There’s really only one thing you need to know to THINK Like a BLACK belt or to be successful in anything you do…

“Perfection is not a destination; it’s a never-ending process…Enjoy!”

Visit Jim Bouchard for more information.


DERRICK Interview with Daddy Everyday Author Delonso Barnes

September 30, 2013

DaddyEverydayEncouragement Speaker Derrick Hayes gives a DERRICK Interview by asking 7 questions through each letter of his first name to give you an insightful perspective from other experts, entrepreneurs, celebrities and up and coming super stars.

Today’s DERRICK Interview is with Delonso Barnes, who is an author, filmmaker and marketing consultant based out of McDonough, Georgia, a city outside of Atlanta, Georgia. He is a graduate of The Art Institute of Atlanta and Thomas Edison State College in the fields of Music Entertainment Management and Marketing respectively. Barnes’ is a husband and father of two sons.

D is for Dream:  What is your dream, goals or what have you achieved?

My ultimate dream has always been to make a living (at least equal to what I am making now) in entertainment, music in specifically. However, when I became a father in 2005, the focus moved to assisting others in realizing their dreams. I guess being a father figure to my son shifted my professional aspirations. Now, using my creativity and marketing know -how is how I want to make my living and make my dream a reality

E is for Education:  What is your educational background and how do you use it daily?

My educational background consists of an AA in Music Entertainment Management from The Art Institute of Atlanta and a BSBA in Marketing from Thomas Edison State College. Life itself have educated me rather assisting bands in their marketing and promotional efforts or brainstorming with small business owners on strategizing their businesses.

R is for Resource: What resources do you bring to the table that makes you unique or stand out?

My resources are truly at their highest when I’m passionate about the project. When I’m passionate, my creativity, dedication, previous experiences and business sense really shine. I can develop simple marketing plans for projects but when my heart is in it, my strategizing is on another level.

R is for Ready: When did you realize you were ready for what you are doing now?

Currently, I’m in the middle of marketing and promoting my first book entitled, Daddy Everyday. To be honest I wasn’t ready for this or even wanted to write it. The concept of writing a book about changing the negative perception of black fathers was placed on my heart from the Almighty and intensified by raising my two sons. In addition to Daddy Everyday, I’m in production of a documentary entitled, The East Atlanta Project, about the struggles and life of black hip-hop, punk and rock musicians performing in and out of Atlanta. Music is my roots and I have always been ready for this, just didn’t know my place. I actually had to stop production of the documentary because writing Daddy Everyday was my purpose and I couldn’t do anything else until it was written.

I is for Individual: Name at least one individual in your network that others should learn more about and why?

One individual in my network others should learn more about is Roy Cummings. His thirst for knowledge and then ability to turn that knowledge into know-how e.g. like photography, graphic design and communication , makes him a valuable asset to a network.

C is for Challenges: What challenges have you had to overcome?

The challenges I have experienced throughout my pursuit of happiness, happiness being working for myself, have been self-inflicted. Procrastination and fear have crippled my progress and focus. Only way to combat procrastination and fear is quite simple in theory, but can be complicated in execution. The solution is, take action. I simply started writing for the book and filming for the documentary. Then I reached out for a little assistance, which also forced accountability on my part. Once I got things rolling, my procrastination reduced, still around though. My fears have subsided and I’m courageous in my business dealings.

K is for Key: What keys to success can you leave for upcoming entrepreneurs and leaders?

Research, plan and do it. Regardless of what people say, do it. If you fail, pivot your plan and try again. If you are passionate about your business, don’t let anything derail your focus and dedication.

Is there anything that we did not touch on that you would like to inspire others with?

If you are looking for motivation or inspiration, you don’t have to look no farther than the person in the mirror. Envision yourself living your dream and let that be your inspiration.

Visit Delonso for more information.


The DAILY (Derricknyms, Apps and Ideas to Lift You) Message for Thursday

August 1, 2013

Encouragement Speaker Derrick Hayes brings you The DAILY Message on Thursday August 1st, 2013 to empower and inspire you to your next level.

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In This Issue: Look In The Mirror And JUDGE (Joyfully Use Decisions that Grow you Everyday). Now you can Order a Personalized Derricknym with your name.

2. Today’s word is Dictionary. There are many words in the dictionary that you may have or may not have read, learned and shared with others. Is your dictionary collecting dust or do you open it on a regular basis? This is brought to you by Motivation Your Mobile and you can download Today’s word to your Android or I Phone.

3. Idea for today is to write down something you want to accomplish.

Derrick Hayes, an alumnus of Tennessee State University provides you with The DAILY Message and is  available for small and large meetings, church events, academic speaking engagements and workshops. Please visit Derrick’s website at http://www.DerrickHayes.com  and to book him for a speaking engagement or media event, send an email to info@DerrickHayes.com  or call (706) 615-1662.