Did you know that when you work in a hostile environment someone might tell you something that sounds crazy now but it just might turn out to be the greatest news you should of ever listened to? Too bad for many of us because when we don’t want to hear or do certain things that others bring our way we run them off or turn our backs to them.
One day my co-worker Darius Moore asked me to participate in Bow Tie Monday with him and deep down inside I wanted to say no but I soon realized that there was not anyone else in sight that would support his idea and do it with him.
In my possession I had at least two clip on bow ties that would get me through two Bow Tie Mondays so I decided to give it a try and through his name DARIUS I’m here to discuss the 6 ways to get Moore out of life.
D is for Dream. I never asked Brother Moore where he got the idea for Bow Tie Monday but I’m still thankful to this day that he asked me. There are more dreams in the cemetery than inside of people that are alive. Many are scared to fail or not try because others might laugh at them. DARIUS dream and my support to his idea were like peanut butter and jelly because they were meant for each other. You can’t live dreams if you never live and dream.
A is for Action. An average person will dream but an above average person will actually put the dream into action and live the dream. The first time I participated in Bow Tie Monday I saw and felt a change in the atmosphere in our working environment.
People smiled and were giving up compliments and some even wanted to get to know more about us. Some of the students we work with do not talk or use very few words so when I noticed that they liked the change that they saw it was a no brainer for next week. I kept laughing to myself on the inside saying, “All of this because of a neck tie.”
R is for Remain. In life it is not the adversity you face but it is how you face the adversity that can determine how successful you are for the rest of your life. A TIE changing moment came one Sunday afternoon when I wanted to get a new bow tie to wear but it was storming and every element of weather was outside to keep me inside including rain, thunder and lightning.
My mind was made up that I would have a tie for Bow Tie Monday so I started to think how I could turn the regular ties that I had into the bow ties that I need. I watched videos on YouTube and I learned how to do it and I knew right then that I would never have to miss another Bow Tie Monday.
I is for Inspire. The more and more we took action with the dream the more and more others were inspired. At least once a week we showed a positive image with two black men dressed up and this truly began to inspire others inside our classroom, outside our classroom, throughout the school and in the community.
People started to ask questions and participate and even wanted to learn how to turn regular ties into bow ties. It made impossible things seem possible.
U is for Unique. When you do something long enough you will want to get better at it and even want to find a new way to do it. I never agreed to do Bow Tie Monday thinking that one day I would learn how to make my own ties.
In order to get better in whatever you do you have to find ways to step your game up. I was doing Bow Tie Monday but did not even know how to tie a self-tie bow tie. After I learned how to tie one I was excited and bought some fabric so that someone could make me a make a bow tie to wear to a Christmas Party.
After three different people that knew how to sew told me that they could not make me a bow tie I heard voices that would teach me step by step in how to make a bow tie without sewing. Now because I did not give up I can make regular ties, bow ties, ascots and pocket squares without sewing and I have a niche without a stitch.
S is for Serve. When I was chasing money I was broke but when I began to serve I have never missed a meal or deal because I live by the motto, “In order to get a blessing you have to be a blessing.”
The more I learned the more I wanted to teach others. Everyone is on different levels so there is always someone that you can teach. When I speak to youth groups I do my best to make sure every one of them has a tie so that they have a tangible tool that they can take home with them and practice the techniques that I teach them.
There are no odds for what I’m doing now and how I’m doing it. I have seen myself go from not even wanting to wear a tie to traveling to different parts of the United States of America teaching others how to tie a tie.
There is a Dream inside of DARIUS just like there is inside of you. Success will come but you have to take Action, Remain, Inspire, be Unique and do everything you can to Serve others and this is how you will get Moore out of life.