Welcome and in this moment the African American Male Initiative program at Columbus State University brought in Derrick Hayes the “enTIEtainer” as the keynote speaker for their “Wings and Bow ties” Professional Development Seminar. In this video Derrick Hayes teaches the young men about the “VALUE of a Tie.”
Welcome to Tie Tip Tuesday Episode 2 is where Derrick Hayes the “enTIEtainer” teaches the world how to tie a bow tie.
Welcome to Tie Tip Tuesday and Tie Tip Episode 1 is where Derrick Hayes the “enTIEtainer” teaches the world how to tie a regular tie.
Did you know that when you work in a hostile environment someone might tell you something that sounds crazy now but it just might turn out to be the greatest news you should of ever listened to? Too bad for many of us because when we don’t want to hear or do certain things that others bring our way we run them off or turn our backs to them.
One day my co-worker Darius Moore asked me to participate in Bow Tie Monday with him and deep down inside I wanted to say no but I soon realized that there was not anyone else in sight that would support his idea and do it with him.
In my possession I had at least two clip on bow ties that would get me through two Bow Tie Mondays so I decided to give it a try and through his name DARIUS I’m here to discuss the 6 ways to get Moore out of life.
D is for Dream. I never asked Brother Moore where he got the idea for Bow Tie Monday but I’m still thankful to this day that he asked me. There are more dreams in the cemetery than inside of people that are alive. Many are scared to fail or not try because others might laugh at them. DARIUS dream and my support to his idea were like peanut butter and jelly because they were meant for each other. You can’t live dreams if you never live and dream.
A is for Action. An average person will dream but an above average person will actually put the dream into action and live the dream. The first time I participated in Bow Tie Monday I saw and felt a change in the atmosphere in our working environment.
People smiled and were giving up compliments and some even wanted to get to know more about us. Some of the students we work with do not talk or use very few words so when I noticed that they liked the change that they saw it was a no brainer for next week. I kept laughing to myself on the inside saying, “All of this because of a neck tie.”
R is for Remain. In life it is not the adversity you face but it is how you face the adversity that can determine how successful you are for the rest of your life. A TIE changing moment came one Sunday afternoon when I wanted to get a new bow tie to wear but it was storming and every element of weather was outside to keep me inside including rain, thunder and lightning.
My mind was made up that I would have a tie for Bow Tie Monday so I started to think how I could turn the regular ties that I had into the bow ties that I need. I watched videos on YouTube and I learned how to do it and I knew right then that I would never have to miss another Bow Tie Monday.
I is for Inspire. The more and more we took action with the dream the more and more others were inspired. At least once a week we showed a positive image with two black men dressed up and this truly began to inspire others inside our classroom, outside our classroom, throughout the school and in the community.
People started to ask questions and participate and even wanted to learn how to turn regular ties into bow ties. It made impossible things seem possible.
U is for Unique. When you do something long enough you will want to get better at it and even want to find a new way to do it. I never agreed to do Bow Tie Monday thinking that one day I would learn how to make my own ties.
In order to get better in whatever you do you have to find ways to step your game up. I was doing Bow Tie Monday but did not even know how to tie a self-tie bow tie. After I learned how to tie one I was excited and bought some fabric so that someone could make me a make a bow tie to wear to a Christmas Party.
After three different people that knew how to sew told me that they could not make me a bow tie I heard voices that would teach me step by step in how to make a bow tie without sewing. Now because I did not give up I can make regular ties, bow ties, ascots and pocket squares without sewing and I have a niche without a stitch.
S is for Serve. When I was chasing money I was broke but when I began to serve I have never missed a meal or deal because I live by the motto, “In order to get a blessing you have to be a blessing.”
The more I learned the more I wanted to teach others. Everyone is on different levels so there is always someone that you can teach. When I speak to youth groups I do my best to make sure every one of them has a tie so that they have a tangible tool that they can take home with them and practice the techniques that I teach them.
There are no odds for what I’m doing now and how I’m doing it. I have seen myself go from not even wanting to wear a tie to traveling to different parts of the United States of America teaching others how to tie a tie.
There is a Dream inside of DARIUS just like there is inside of you. Success will come but you have to take Action, Remain, Inspire, be Unique and do everything you can to Serve others and this is how you will get Moore out of life.
Encouragement Speaker Derrick Hayes gives a DERRICK Interview by asking 7 questions through each letter of his first name to give you an insightful perspective from other experts, entrepreneurs, celebrities and up and coming super stars.
Today’s DERRICK Interview is with The Reverend Daniel T. Partiss who was ordained as a Minster and Missionary Evangelist in 1985. For over 25 years he has been a teacher of Spiritualism, and Prosperity. Dan has been the CIO for 2 businesses, and Owner of 3 others, and has a free eBook on becoming Debt Free.
*D is for Dream. What is your Dream?*
My dream is (or better stated Faith) is 2 fold… As a Pastor of a fledgling church with a new Paradigm, I have Faith that it and its parishioners grow and prosper both in the word and glory of the creator and
in the world as well. God wants us to succeed he created us for glory. It is our ego that gets in the way. And as a speaker and new author I have Faith that the message I bring, That prospering by working with the
creator, is not only achievable, but is the only SURE way of succeeding.
*E is for Encourage. What encourages you?*
First and foremost my connection with God, whenever things get rough I go to the quiet and God is there waiting for me with the answer. After that My wife and soul mate Aristia, who uplifts me with her unwavering belief in me. And then, in business, Napoleon Hill who has inspired me to see beyond the limited viewpoints of the small minded who are content with “ALMOST ENOUGH”.
*R is for Resource. What resources do you bring to the table that makes you unique or stand out? *
A melding of science and spirituality for one thing, A B.Sci. degree in computer science and an ordination in spiritualism work together to resolve issues with logic and caring. Also having worked our way out of debt without filing bankruptcy. Lastly an ingrained belief that God want’s us to prosper and put the clues everywhere.
*R is for Ready? When did you realize you were ready for what you are doing now?*
When I was discharged from the Navy… I need a new direction and the Seminary turned out to be the way. Haven’t looked back since.
*I is for Individual. Name at least one person that you know that you feel others should learn about and why?*
Napoleon Hill… Pure and simple the man was a Inspired and Prophetic Genius. everyone should read his books,especially ‘Outwitting The Devil’.
*C is for Continue. When you fail, things look bleak or are not optimistic what makes you want to continue?*
The knowledge that you can never fail if you learn from the experience. Mistakes are normal and expected. It resets your mind to go in different directions, to think out of the box. That and the firm Knowledge that God will not steer me wrong, unless he wants me to learn from it.
*K is for Key. What keys to success can you leave for upcoming entrepreneurs and leaders? *
Always be ready to learn, from books, audio, classes, and the failures of others, whatever way you can… When your learning ends, so does your career… Trust me.
*Is there anything that we did not touch on that you would like to inspire others with?*
Only that the Creator doesn’t care what name you call him/her, or what you believe about him/her… the Creator only cares THAT you believe.
Visit Reverend Daniel T. Partiss for more information.
Encouragement Speaker Derrick Hayes gives a DERRICK Interview by asking 7 questions through each letter of his first name to give you an insightful perspective from other experts, entrepeneurs, celebrities and up and coming super stars.
Today’s DERRICK Interview is with Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman who is a licensed psychologist, owner of My Dating School, author of Dating from the Inside Out, published by Atria Books, a regular speaker at The Learning Annex and is the NY Love Examiner. She’s been an expert on television like the CBS Early Show & the AM Northwest Early Show and a radio guest on the Curtis Sliwa show.
D is for Dream: What is your dream or what have you achieved?
I have achieved many of my dreams. I wanted to marry my soulmate, have a boy and a girl and buy an apartment buy the beach. I did that. I also wanted to be a published writer and my first book was published by Simon and Schuster. I wanted to help people and do work that I love and I’ve accomplished this as a psychologist, coach and author.
E is for Encouragement: What encourages you?
It encourages me to know that if we all share our gifts in a context of love that we can make this world a better place. It also encourages me to have teachers that I love around me. I made two collages with authors and healers that inspire me and have them framed in my house.
R is for Resource: What resources do you have that makes you unique or stand out?
I am a psychologist and dating coach who writes, speaks and teaches. I also went to the High School of Performing Arts in NYC for voice. I am always learning, attending workshops and reading groups. I’m creative and love to share my message in different ways.
R is for Ready: When did you realize that you were ready for what you are doing now?
I’ve always known I wanted to be a writer and speaker but after 2008 I focused on practical things with two kids and working. Then in March of this year I learned I had breast cancer and had to undergo a lumpectomy and 8 months of chemotherapy and radiation. I was walking on the beach and I asked my Higher Self if I’d accomplished what I was meant to do here. The answer came back yes (for the reasons above) but I got a clear message that I needed to publish 22 books as my legacy. After this I became very directed and seemed to have energy to write and publish my book, ‘When Mars Women Date: How Career Women Can Love Themselves into the Relationship of their Dreams,’ even during the chemo. I also started my own publishing house called Parachute Jump Publishing with the motto ‘Books that Inspire You to Love More’ with the intention of a 22 book countdown. I have 4 books so far and will also be writing one about my cancer experience soon.
I is for Individual: Name one person that others should know about and why?
My sister visited me when I was first diagnosed and she told me to call a man named Christopher Dilts that she knew in California. He worked with angels and was a healer. He has a website called www.askanangel.org. I was a bit skeptical at first but I really liked him and I am a tough critic when it comes to healers. He confirmed the spiritual purpose of my cancer and my soul ‘s mission to write and help many people (that I just mentioned). I have loved our conversations and have found him to be wise, supportive and very on target during this challenging time. I would hope that others who are like-minded would avail themselves of his services and support.
C is for Continue: When things look bleak, what makes you continue?
When things look bleak, I remember that we are all here for a reason and I return to my purpose. I have told myself, ‘My mission is stronger than my cancer’ while I was going through treatments. The love of my family and friends also keep me going and my desire to share my love and gifts in this world. Getting messages from my Higher self helps too because these messages are always wise and empowering (unlike our super ego messages that are punitive or belittling). It helps to know the difference and to remember to live from a place of Love.
K is for Keys: What keys to success can you leave for others?
I think that a belief in yourself, a belief in your intention and persistence, is key. Create what you want from the inside out first. This means that if you get rejected or things aren’t going so well ‘out there’ you remember who you are and that what you are creating matters. If you remain in that place long-enough, you will attract people at that same frequency and will effect outer change so the outer world reflects your inner one. Or, at least you will live your life aligned with your values and Higher self.
Check out Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman’s new book, When Mars Women Date: How Career Women Can Love Themselves into the Relationship of their Dreams.
Presented by Encouragement Speaker Derrick Hayes
-When adults are engaged – Diamond ring
-When youth are not engaged – Ring from School, Police Department, or Juvenile Detention “Come get your child”
When you get married you stand before witnesses and give your vows. A vow is a small word with a big responsibility. Since this is to uplift education we will use our vowels, AEIOU.
AEIOU is for Activities, Exercises, Ideas, and Optimism and Understanding.
School principals please share this with your staff and staff share this with your children.
Please say this Pledge:
I’m a parent, and I will use my vowels AEIOU to engage youth daily with Activities, Exercises, Ideas and Optimism to help our youth Understand they can be successful.
A is for Activities
During the summer boredom can set in when students don’t have anything to do and we don’t provide them with something else to do. Here is a list of 10 things that you can do with your children to help them stay engaged over the summer.
1. Art Projects
1. Begin a business
3. Create a puppet
4. Dog training
6. Fact Find
7. Go on a trip
8. Help the homeless
9. Inspire a poem
10. Journal writing
E is for Exercises
Here is an activity that you can do with youth to open them up to their purpose and possibilities. Answer the following questions by yourself and with them. These questions come from my ebook 1 WORD Is All It Takes.
2. What does your word inspire you to write?
Action Step: Each day for the next 21 days write down in a journal what your word inspires you to write.
I is for Ideas
Brainstorm with youth to see what they are good or great at. Help them develop their gifts and take advantage of opportunities in front of them. Turn what they like to do into something they can do forever. When you find out what they like to do brainstorm with them to see what type of business or organization they could start.
If they can think well encourage them to be a consultant. If they can draw well encourage them to be an artist or architect. If they can count money well encourage them to be an accountant or auditor. If they can make the law, instead of break the law encourage them to be a lawyer or judge.
O is for Optimism
A great way to be optimistic is to teach youth how to look for the positive instead of always looking for the negative. Positive interaction is important to keep youth engaged during school and throughout the summer months. Please watch this video “Engage Others With Optimism”
U is for Understanding
With our youth going to and from many events during school and in the summer we have to check in with them to make sure they are understanding what they are learning. Here are 3 simple questions to keep in mind to ask your kids.
1. Have you learned anything today?
2. What have you learned today?
3. Is there anything you didn’t quite understand or you would like to learn more about?
This summer in 2012 if we keep our vowels (AEIOU) and provide our children with Activities, Exercises, Ideas, and Optimism they will Understand that they can be successful.
Now you can book Derrick Hayes as your Back To School Speaker for meetings, conferences and events for the 2012-2013 school year.