LGBT Events

March 25, 2020

LBGT Events in Columbus, Georgia are brought to you and presented by Columbus Colgay Pride and Diversity Saturday and Derrick Hayes the “enTIEtainer” was invited out to perform and share his LGBT motivational message with L for Lesson instead of Lesbian, G for Gift instead of Gay, B for Belief instead of Bisexual and T for Transformation instead of Transgender.

Thank you! That was so amazing!!! I’m going to start sharing your information today! That was an awesome motivational message that touched me so deeply! Then for you to even take the time to make that beautiful message for me… I was just speechless. Which doesn’t happen often! I love what you do!!!  It was so inspiring. I was feeling a little down and you changed my entire day! Which in turn changed other people’s day… like a ripple effect. ️Perfect example of what spreading positivity and love can and will do!

Marcie Campbell – Columbus Colgay Pride Diversity Saturday’s Volunteer Outreach/Marketing Director and Board Member


DERRICK Interview with Transgender Author of Hung In The Middle Alana Nicole Sholar

February 19, 2013

AlanaNicoleSholarEncouragement Speaker Derrick Hayes gives a DERRICK Interview by asking 7 questions through each letter of his first name to give you an insightful perspective from other experts, entrepreneurs, celebrities and up and coming super stars.

Today’s DERRICK Interview is with Hung In The Middle Author Alana Nicole Sholar. Born in Kentucky in 1961 as Alan, Alana Nicole Sholar still lives in the same small town where she grew up – as a boy.  Still living ‘hung in the middle’ of two genders, Sholar educates her town, and the world, with the release of her memoir in May 2012.

D is for Dream. What is your dream and what have you achieved?

I’ve always dreamed of being able to leave something behind that says, “Hey, I was here,” once my life’s journey is complete.  I’ve often daydreamed about what that could be.  That dream has been realized through the publishing of my memoir, “Hung in the Middle: A Journey of Gender Discovery,” (www.hunginthemiddle.com).  Of course, I’ve had other dreams throughout my lifetime – some have come to fruition, others have not, and many are detailed in the book.  However, that’s not to say I have finished dreaming yet.

On a personal level, as the title indicates, I currently live life ‘hung in the middle’ of two genders.  My greatest personal dreams are to achieve certain milestones in my transitioning process, namely, facial feminization and breast implants.  Then the world can see me as I’ve always envisioned myself – as a female.

On a professional level, I dream of “Hung in the Middle” being a huge success.  However, I don’t measure success in dollars.  My dream is that “Hung” is an inspiration to other people who are like me, and a resource for anyone who wants to gain insight into the life of a transgender individual.

E is for Encourage. What encourages you?

I am encouraged by the love and support I receive from my family, friends, and especially, my loving spouse.  I have lived most of my life in the small town of Versailles, Kentucky and am encouraged by the support and acceptance I’ve received from my neighbors and the local residents –exceptional for a rural place with little to no knowledge about transgender individuals.

Thanks to social media, and especially FaceBook, I’m always encouraged whenever I gain a new fan or friend, especially when they take the time to leave a personal comment or private message to let me know how reading my book has helped them in some way.  The MOST encouraging message I’ve received, and I don’t see how this one can ever be topped, read: “Reading your book may have saved my life. – Karen” — now, that’s encouraging.

R is for Resource. What resources do you bring to the table that makes you unique or stand out?

Believe me, as a six-foot, male-to-female, transgender individual, living in a small town in the center of the Bible belt in Kentucky — I STAND OUT – it was the thought of ‘coming out’ that scared me.  I’d say the resources I bring to the table are honesty about my experiences, and the willingness to answer any questions anyone might have.  I believe there is no ‘wrong’ question and no ‘wrong’ way to ask a question.  I feel when someone asks me a question, that means they are open minded enough to want to find an answer.  When I answer, I do so based on my experiences.  The same question may be asked to another person, and that person may have a completely different answer.  I can only answer based on ‘me.’

R is for Ready. When did you realize you were ready for what you are doing now?

I’ve learned that life has a way of letting YOU know when you’re ready.  For so much of my life I tried to hide and run from the fact that I’m ‘different’ – and for many years I wasn’t even aware of the word ‘transgender’ so I couldn’t understand why I felt the way I did.  That hiding and running caused health problems, so, it was through dealing with those health problems life said to me, “it’s time to speak up – it’s time to come out.”

In my younger years I was quite a risk-taker, lived life rather dangerously.  For example, one of my first car wrecks was at approximately 115 MPH, and that was back in the day before seatbelts; and only one of the experiences I’ve lived through where death would have been the expected outcome.  Over the years many people have said to me, “You should write a book about your experiences.”  But I couldn’t write that book because I hadn’t told my secret, and my secret was the basis for me living life so dangerously because I always believed if I died young, then I could take my secret to the grave, and no one would ever be the wiser.

Once I did come out, then I didn’t have the time to write a book because, like most middle-class Americans, I had a full time job and a family to care for.  However, when the factory where I worked closed its doors, I had plenty of time on my hands, which led to sitting down and focusing on my memoir.  Again, I see the factory closing down as life’s way of saying, “It’s time to write.”

I is for Individual. Name at least one person that you know that you feel others should learn about and why?

I’d have to say my spouse, Bobbie.  She and I have known one another for 30-years or so, and even had a relationship back in the day.  However, in December 2006 when Bobbie learned about me being transgender, she told me she didn’t want to have anything to do with me – she called me a freak-a-zoid.  Then, in December 2008, Bobbie and I were married.  Of course, our journey together is also detailed in my book – or at least ‘my side’ of our journey is detailed in my book – which is how Bobbie says it.  She’s in the process of writing what she calls ‘her side’ of our story – which explains how she went from saying “freak-a-zoid” to saying, “I do.”

I’ve also had the great fortune of becoming friends with Buck Angel, a highly successful transgender female-to-male individual and motivational speaker.  Buck is not only a supporter of my book, but has become a good friend.  He is such a good hearted, caring, down to earth person and anyone who has the pleasure of having Buck in their life is truly blessed.

C is for Continue. When you fail, things look bleak or are not optimistic what makes you want to continue?

This question takes me back to “E is for Encourage.”  There’s no greater encouragement I can receive than to know my memoirs inspiring, encouraging, and educating so many people – and I know it is because of the many reviews written that speaks to this fact – so I’ve never felt like I’ve failed.

However, my discouragement comes from a lack of the funds necessary to cover expenses. Not even ONE book can be printed until the printer and the publisher are paid – upfront.  No one benefits from a resource they don’t even know exists or can’t gain access to.  I can’t speak to the college kids who need to hear the message, ‘people are just people,’ if there are no travel funds.  I can’t share with social workers that one of their peers recommended my memoir as a resource for anyone with clients in the GLBT community if there is no promotional budget.  So, instead of just giving up and saying, “I can’t . . .” I simply ask for help.  Anyone who desires to play a part in inspiring, encouraging, and educating others can do so by clicking the “Donate” button at the “Hung In The Middle”  website.

K is for Key. What keys to success can you leave for upcoming entrepreneurs and leaders?

I’d say first you have to know YOUR definition of ‘success.’  Personally, I feel I’ve had great success – because I define success as my ability to help others.  If I defined success as the number of dollars I’ve made from the sale of “Hung in the Middle,” then I’d be a total failure.  Money is an important part of life, but it’s not the money that makes someone happy – happiness comes from within.  Money just gives folks more options.  Sometimes, people with less money have fewer options – but the number of options has nothing to do with a person’s level of happiness.  I believe a person who is not happy without money is a person who will not be happy with money.  And, I know a lot of happy people who don’t have a cent to their name.

I also believe honesty and integrity are key factors to success.  I believe in the law of nature that says, “What goes around comes around.”  What you desire to get back is what you must give.  So, unless you are honest and have integrity, don’t expect to receive honesty and integrity from others.

Is there anything that we did not touch on that you would like to inspire others with?

Just remember, it’s your life to live.  Someone else can’t live it for you nor can you live someone else’s life.  Live your life by your rules.Always be true to yourself, and then happiness and success will find you – in that order.

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